Caregiving is a challenging life. Notice I didn’t say profession. Because it si not always a profession. Sometimes, as it is in my case, it is a lifestyle. It can consume your entire life. From the time you get up until the moment you finally drop from physical, mental and emotional exhaustion.
With certain situations, if you aren’t care, it can eat you whole. You may tend to feel yourself drowning into a dark abyss not even being able to see the light in the distance. That is, if you let it.
That’s the trick.
Separation is the key. However i dont mean that in the literal sense.
Compartmentalization is very important in this lifestyle because if you dont, if you take everything that is said and done to heart, it will utterly destroy you.
This isn’t an attack against anyone who is getting the care but individuals in that situation, are unable to take care of them selves and can be very needy or demanding and over time you can lose sense of yourself. No one is exempt from this, myself included. It is important to find some time for yourself, your significant other, your children, friends and so on.
It is a fact that you are an individual and you have needs as well.
If you begin to feel yourself being angry for no rational reason, if the sound of their voice make you grind your teeth, guess what?
You are starting to experience what is referred to as burn out. Everyone experiences at one time or the other. With that comes the anger, guilt, shame and a whole hot of other emotions.
It is important to address burn out before it gets beyond your control. If you are the only one who is able to take care of the individual needing care, then this is essential.
I will soon be posting ways to recognize and deal with caregiver burnout.