Therapy doesn’t always happen after the fact
Therapy is not a bad thing. Therapy has a tendency to have a negative connotation. When you see someone go into a therapists office, a persons first thought goes to, “I wonder what’s wrong with them” or “wow, I didn’t know they were crazy”. That isn’t always the case. Just because a person goes to therapy doesn’t necessarily mean they have something “wrong” with them or that they are crazy. It doesn’t even mean they are going through a hard time in their lives.
A person can start going to therapy before the fact. In a caregiver’s case, a person can start to go to therapy because they are recognizing signs of caregiver burnout. That doesn’t mean they are already experiencing it. It means they are being proactive to ensure they do not suffer from it later. There are certain things that a person just can’t talk about with the people closest to them. Everyone needs an outlet of some sort and therapy can be that outlet.
I am guilty of this. I go to therapy. I was one of the people who waited until after the fact. I carried everything on my shoulders. I thought i could bear everything until the day came that I couldn’t.
It was a hard day indeed
It was an exceptionally difficult day in my day as a caregiver. My father in law was being difficult not only that day but had been all week. He had been suffering from a UTI and that made his combative, made him argue about everything along with having delusions and after a week of this he finally said the thing that finally broke me.
“You just don’t want to take care of me”
That was the sentence that finally broke me. Every negative thought i had for the past few months, not just the past week but the past few months came forth in the form of the spoken word. It all came out. I fumes, I lashed out and it wasn’t fair or anyone.
Luckily, my father in aw wouldn’t remember it 20 minutes later. But everyone else would. I fumed for days. A few days later i decided it was time. I needed some external help. Therapy, it was. I had gone to therapy in the past when i was a teenager.
I did some research and found an agency that handled it and i was paired with a therapist. I had some other issues than just caregiver burnout, but that is a topic for another day.
Life is hard
Indeed. And being a caregiver to a loved one makes it harder no matter what anyone says. And therapy can make it easier. Having a verbal outlet to let out the frustrations, having an unbiased party let you know how to help yourself, how to let it go, how to breathe through the hard parts, can make it all worth while.
Therapy has such a negative association with it, that people are ashamed of going to therapy and some wont even entertain the thought.
To all caregivers out there, give it a shot, it may just help you in a way you didn’t even think possible!
Have a wonderful and give a care!